UnDoing UnPatient with Minou Hexspoor

UnDoing UnPatient with Minou Hexspoor

In the latest episode of “On Purpose Secrets,” Dan Beldowicz and guest Minou Hexspoor delve into the profound realm of functional empathy, a crucial skill for navigating high-stress environments and fostering effective relationships, both personally and professionally.

 Minou, with her rich background in psychology and extensive experience in high-stress, humanitarian settings, shares her insights into how empathy, when functionally applied, can transform interactions and relationships.

Key takeaways:

  • The significance of functional empathy in leadership and personal growth, highlighting its role in understanding and managing stress and enhancing communication.
  • The exploration of empathy beyond its conventional understanding, presenting it as a skill that can be developed for more profound and effective interactions.
  • The impact of functional empathy in real-world scenarios, particularly in contexts of trauma and leadership.
  • An introduction to the “8 Roles” framework developed by Minou, providing a practical tool for individuals to recognize and adapt their approaches to empathy in various relationships and situations.

For those eager to dive deeper into the world of functional empathy and gain valuable strategies for personal and professional development, listening to the full episode is highly recommended.

Connect with Minou Hexspoor on LinkedIn to further explore her work and contributions to the field of empathy and leadership.

Minou on LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/minou-hexspoor/

Functional Empathy: https://functionalempathy.com/

Parenting On Purpose with Carrie Lahr

Parenting On Purpose with Carrie Lahr

In the “Parenting On Purpose” episode with Carrie Lahr, Dan Beldowicz explores the intricacies of parenting with intention, leveraging experiences from professional and personal life to enhance the parenting journey. Here are the top 5 takeaways from their enlightening conversation:

  1. Navigating the Firsts with Compassion and Learning:

    • Carrie shares the challenges and learnings from her oldest child’s first semester in college, emphasizing the importance of support, understanding, and the willingness to learn from these new experiences together as a family.

  2. Parenting with Intention:

    • The concept of “parenting on purpose” is dissected, focusing on the importance of intentional actions and decisions in creating a nurturing environment that fosters growth, understanding, and strong familial bonds.

  3. Leveraging Personal Experiences to Guide and Teach:

    • Carrie discusses how sharing personal experiences and struggles, such as career changes, with children can provide valuable lessons in resilience, adaptability, and the pursuit of opportunities, even in the face of unexpected challenges.

  4. Fostering Open Communication and Trust:

    • Highlighting the power of trust and open communication, Carrie shares how creating a safe space for her children to share their struggles without fear of judgment has opened doors to deeper understanding and support.

  5. Building Strengths and Facing Challenges Together:

    • The episode delves into the importance of focusing on strengths rather than weaknesses, encouraging children to learn from challenges, and supporting them in exploring solutions, thereby fostering independence and confidence.

This conversation offers a deep dive into the heart of purposeful parenting, emphasizing the importance of empathy, understanding, and intentional guidance as children navigate their own paths. For those looking to enrich their parenting journey with purpose and intention, Carrie Lahr provides insightful strategies and personal anecdotes that resonate with the challenges and rewards of raising children in today’s complex world.

 

Connect with Carrie on LinkedIN – https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-lahr-inside-out/

Or at her website – https://www.carrielahr.com/

Listen to your Heart

Listen to Your Heart - On Purpose - Dan Beldowicz
Listen to your Heart
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hey I’m Dan Beldowicz bringing you
 
another quote from the car today’s quote
comes from Thomas Carlyle he says it is
the heart always that sees before the
head can see now that’s an interesting
quote because it talks about the
connection between your mind and your
heart and in when we we talked about
having uh you know following your
passionate eating and having a burning
desire for something it truly comes from
your heart because as soon as you have
this desire to do something and it sends
a message to your brain all sudden this
thinker this this mind this head of
yours
which really only records all past
experience is the only record of history
for you and it’s just based on
everything that has happened suddenly
says well you can’t do that you’re not
strong enough you’re not fit enough
you’re not this
you’re not that it’s never been done
before you why would you want to do that
your mother never said it was a good
idea
your heart’s desires are getting
trampled on by your mind and in the the
record of the past that you have whether
it’s limiting beliefs that you’ve
developed whether it’s the assumptions
around what it is that you can and
cannot do or if it’s just a deep-seated
gremlin where people or you specifically
are saying I’m not good enough that’s
not me
and that’s all in your head your head is
destroying your heart’s desire now the
whole key to all this is truly getting
your heart in your head to be in
alignment and that’s where meditation
really comes in because you’ve got to
retrain the brain right we’ve spent a
known however old you are
unless you’re aware and conscious of
what it is that you’re doing and
practicing and practicing this on a
daily basis then more than likely your
brain is conditioned in in just in a
habit of shutting down everything that
your heart brings up
so it’s always finding a reason of why
it is that you can’t do what it is that
your heart wants to do so that’s where
meditation really comes in is where
you’ve got to sit down and train your
brain your your brain is just a record
of the thoughts the feelings and what
actions were taken in the results you
got and then again how that made you
feel so if your brain is a constant
record of your thoughts in in your
emotions then we’ve got to be able to
train it in a way that you can start
aligning what it is that you want to
make that a memory
and we do that through either guided
meditation or honestly mental rehearsal
rehearsing what it’s going to feel like
when it is when you have what it is you
really want to have so when you have
this desire when you have something come
up you say you know what I’d like to
have that this is what I want this is
truly Who I am and where it I would like
to be we’ve got to sit down and mentally
stop we’ve got to pause our brain from
shutting it down and going into all of
the reasons why we can’t have what it is
that we truly want and then start moving
into how do we get it don’t worry about
the how right ii just know that it is
possible in some way shape or form rip
of our mind has to then start to say
okay well what if this happened what if
this was a possibility
suddenly that that stops the limiting
beliefs and assumptions that you can’t
do it it starts to open up the doors of
possibility right and your brain is
gonna find different things that an
associates way better that it aligns
with your thinking so if you can start
thinking on purpose and start saying it
is plus and start seeking out maybe
other people that have done it some some
guides or mentors those that have
unlocked this path before in a team what
it is that you want to have and even if
you can’t find it if it’s something
that’s totally outlandish way out there
and I and I’m talking like hey we’re
going to put a man on Mars type of out
there kind of thing that nobody’s ever
done it before then you got to start
doing that you’ve got it you are able to
train your brain you’re the only one
that has control over your thoughts and
that’s where we got to start to really
start controlling and thinking on
purpose not just allowing our brains to
leverage the 60,000 thoughts that it has
every single day
that are kneeling in alignment with
where it is you want to go and what it
is you want to have
so the heart is always going to see
before the head camp
the key to this is truly sitting down in
retraining your brain to follow your
heart instead of constantly having your
heart follow your brain that’s where
chronic stress constantly comes from is
that feeling of out of alignment and not
getting what it is that you truly want
you’ve got to be able to put that out
there you’ve got to be able to express
it and allow your heart to leave
and that’s where being on purpose truly
comes from
leading with your heart not just with
your head I’m Dan Beldowicz and if
you want more of this head over to wake
up on purpose and grab the wake up up
river splinter is a free copy you can
download the PDF and it walks you
through this blueprint and then breaks
down what it is that you truly want and
how you’re going to get it over the next
90 days and it goes through very
specifically aligning what it is you
want creating a vision so it takes over
your head and then creating a mapping
strategies on how you’re actually going
to do and do it and then execute it
month by month week by week day by day
hour by hour half hour by half hour all
these specific things so that you can
achieve your goals faster being bigger
and grander so that you can finally have
what it is you want
so head over to wake up on purpose calm
and grab your free copy today