UnDoing UnPatient with Minou Hexspoor

UnDoing UnPatient with Minou Hexspoor

In the latest episode of “On Purpose Secrets,” Dan Beldowicz and guest Minou Hexspoor delve into the profound realm of functional empathy, a crucial skill for navigating high-stress environments and fostering effective relationships, both personally and professionally.

 Minou, with her rich background in psychology and extensive experience in high-stress, humanitarian settings, shares her insights into how empathy, when functionally applied, can transform interactions and relationships.

Key takeaways:

  • The significance of functional empathy in leadership and personal growth, highlighting its role in understanding and managing stress and enhancing communication.
  • The exploration of empathy beyond its conventional understanding, presenting it as a skill that can be developed for more profound and effective interactions.
  • The impact of functional empathy in real-world scenarios, particularly in contexts of trauma and leadership.
  • An introduction to the “8 Roles” framework developed by Minou, providing a practical tool for individuals to recognize and adapt their approaches to empathy in various relationships and situations.

For those eager to dive deeper into the world of functional empathy and gain valuable strategies for personal and professional development, listening to the full episode is highly recommended.

Connect with Minou Hexspoor on LinkedIn to further explore her work and contributions to the field of empathy and leadership.

Minou on LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/minou-hexspoor/

Functional Empathy: https://functionalempathy.com/

UnDoing UnLed with Cody Williams

UnDoing UnLed with Cody Williams

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In this insightful episode of “UnDoing the UnLife,” Dan Beldowicz sits down with Cody Williams of Trinity Breakthrough Coaching. Cody brings a wealth of experience from working with leaders across various sectors, including Fortune 500 companies, startups, and nonprofit organizations. His focus is on developing aspiring leaders and enhancing the skill sets of existing leaders to lead effectively and balance their professional and personal lives.

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UnDoing UnConfident & UnCourageous with Ken Jacobs

UnDoing UnConfident with Ken Jacobs

In this episode of “UnDoing the UnLife,” Dan welcomes Ken Jacobs, a distinguished figure in executive coaching for PR and communication leaders. Ken, the principal behind Jacobs Consulting & Executive Coaching, shares his journey from a seasoned professional in PR agency management to an empowering coach dedicated to enhancing the leadership skills of executives across the marketing and communications spectrum.

Key Takeaways:

  1. The Courage to Speak Up: Ken discusses a common challenge he encounters with PR agency leaders: the struggle to muster courage in crucial conversations. Despite the high stakes involved in their roles, many leaders express fear over asserting budget needs, addressing unpaid invoices, or advocating for rate increases with clients. Ken emphasizes that these fears are surmountable and often coachable.

  2. Constructive Dialogue Creation: A significant part of overcoming these challenges involves learning how to engage in constructive dialogues. Ken shares insights into helping leaders navigate their fears and engage in meaningful conversations that can lead to positive outcomes for all parties involved. This includes strategies for addressing performance issues within teams and fostering a culture of open communication.

  3. Empowerment through Coaching: The episode delves into the distinction between consulting and coaching, highlighting the importance of drawing solutions from within the leaders themselves rather than providing direct advice. Ken’s approach focuses on empowering leaders to find their own solutions, thereby ensuring they are more likely to implement and commit to them.

  4. Addressing Employee Disengagement: Ken touches on the widespread issue of employee disengagement, exacerbated by the COVID-19 pandemic. He notes the critical link between employee happiness, engagement, and organizational success, stressing that true leadership involves not just managing tasks but inspiring and motivating team members.

  5. The Journey to Self-Empowerment: Both Ken and Dan discuss the transformative power of coaching in fostering self-belief among leaders. They advocate for a coaching relationship that encourages clients to uncover their own wisdom and strength, thereby embarking on a journey of self-empowerment and leadership excellence.

For anyone in a leadership role seeking to improve their ability to communicate effectively and lead with conviction, this episode is a must-listen, providing both inspiration and practical advice to help you undo the UnConfident and UnCourageous aspects of leadership.

 

Ken would love to connect with you! You can find him on LinkedIn (Just search Ken Jacobs, PCP…) 

JacobsComm.com

 

UnDoing UnAble – UnAble to Unstoppable: How to Smash Through the Invisible Wall Holding You Back

The Rhythm of Daily Action - Darren Hardy

UnAble is a state where you feel like you’re in a desert with no tools, no map, and no idea how to get to that oasis you see in the distance. It’s like wanting to play softball at an Olympic level but you don’t even know how to swing a bat.

In the land of UnAble, your brain might be spinning the same old record of “I can’t do it,” “I’m not cut out for this,” or “Maybe I need a miracle to get through.” It’s like wanting to write a book, but you’re just sitting there at the computer, looking at Amazon, not knowing where to start.

Now, imagine you’re at a party. Everyone’s dancing, laughing, and having a good time. But you? You’re just there on the sidelines, feeling like you’ve got two left feet. That’s how UnAble feels. It’s frustrating. It’s the chilly wind that blows when you’re standing outside looking in at the warm, cozy room of “I Can.”

In this state, you might be that cat on the edge, hesitant to jump. You see the gap, you want to leap, but your legs won’t cooperate. It’s like there’s this invisible wall holding you back from reaching out for what you want. Instead of making moves, you’re making excuses. Instead of breaking through, you’re breaking down.

Alright, let’s stop the sob story and change the channel. Here’s the road map to the land of Can-Do:

  1. Reality Check: First off, let’s get real. Where are you at? What skills are you missing? What’s the actual size of the gap? No drama, just facts.
  2. Skill Up: Dive into learning mode. Grab books, hit online courses, get your hands dirty. Your brain is a muscle, let’s work it out.
  3. Network: Find your tribe. Connect with people who’ve been there, done that. Their stories, advice, and support are your golden tickets. (hop into the On Purpose Group on Facebook)
  4. Mentor Magic: Get a mentor, someone who can show you the ropes and give you a nudge when you need it.
  5. Small Wins: Celebrate the baby steps. Completed a certification? Celebrate it. Posted on social about your business? Celebrate it. Small wins are the breadcrumbs leading to the big win.
  6. Mind Over Matter: Shift your mindset from “I can’t” to “I’m learning.” From “It’s impossible” to “It’s a challenge.”
  7. Take the Plunge: Enough with the hesitations. Take a step, take a leap, make the move. Action dispels fear and crushes the UnAble narrative. Count backwards from 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, take action!

As you march down this path, you’ll find the UnAble shadows fading away, and what emerges is a new narrative. A narrative of ability, of action, of a person who’s ready to transform the world, ready to inspire, motivate and empower the world. Remember, the only person who’s been holding you back is you. So, smash through UnAble, and let’s transform the world one person at a time!