UnDoing UnAble – UnAble to Unstoppable: How to Smash Through the Invisible Wall Holding You Back

The Rhythm of Daily Action - Darren Hardy

UnAble is a state where you feel like you’re in a desert with no tools, no map, and no idea how to get to that oasis you see in the distance. It’s like wanting to play softball at an Olympic level but you don’t even know how to swing a bat.

In the land of UnAble, your brain might be spinning the same old record of “I can’t do it,” “I’m not cut out for this,” or “Maybe I need a miracle to get through.” It’s like wanting to write a book, but you’re just sitting there at the computer, looking at Amazon, not knowing where to start.

Now, imagine you’re at a party. Everyone’s dancing, laughing, and having a good time. But you? You’re just there on the sidelines, feeling like you’ve got two left feet. That’s how UnAble feels. It’s frustrating. It’s the chilly wind that blows when you’re standing outside looking in at the warm, cozy room of “I Can.”

In this state, you might be that cat on the edge, hesitant to jump. You see the gap, you want to leap, but your legs won’t cooperate. It’s like there’s this invisible wall holding you back from reaching out for what you want. Instead of making moves, you’re making excuses. Instead of breaking through, you’re breaking down.

Alright, let’s stop the sob story and change the channel. Here’s the road map to the land of Can-Do:

  1. Reality Check: First off, let’s get real. Where are you at? What skills are you missing? What’s the actual size of the gap? No drama, just facts.
  2. Skill Up: Dive into learning mode. Grab books, hit online courses, get your hands dirty. Your brain is a muscle, let’s work it out.
  3. Network: Find your tribe. Connect with people who’ve been there, done that. Their stories, advice, and support are your golden tickets. (hop into the On Purpose Group on Facebook)
  4. Mentor Magic: Get a mentor, someone who can show you the ropes and give you a nudge when you need it.
  5. Small Wins: Celebrate the baby steps. Completed a certification? Celebrate it. Posted on social about your business? Celebrate it. Small wins are the breadcrumbs leading to the big win.
  6. Mind Over Matter: Shift your mindset from “I can’t” to “I’m learning.” From “It’s impossible” to “It’s a challenge.”
  7. Take the Plunge: Enough with the hesitations. Take a step, take a leap, make the move. Action dispels fear and crushes the UnAble narrative. Count backwards from 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, take action!

As you march down this path, you’ll find the UnAble shadows fading away, and what emerges is a new narrative. A narrative of ability, of action, of a person who’s ready to transform the world, ready to inspire, motivate and empower the world. Remember, the only person who’s been holding you back is you. So, smash through UnAble, and let’s transform the world one person at a time!

UnBelieveable – BeLeafs, BeLieing, BeLiving

Be Leafs

In the intricate dance of life, there lies a rhythm, often overlooked, that molds our steps, charts our path, and crafts our story: belief.

This month, we dive deep into the realm of beliefs and unveil layers that are often enigmatic yet incredibly influential. From the beliefs that weigh us down, the self-narratives we sometimes mistake for truths, to the energetic essence that drives our every action – this newsletter is a profound exploration of it all.

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How to Sleep Better

How to Sleep Better

A good night’s sleep is essential for our overall health and well-being. It’s a time for our bodies to recharge and our minds to rest. Yet, many of us struggle with getting the quality sleep we need to feel refreshed and ready for the next day. Creating a nighttime routine can be a powerful tool in helping us get the restful sleep we need. Here are five key components to include in your nighttime routine to get a great night’s sleep:

  1. Clear Mental Clutter

Before heading to bed, it’s important to clear your mind of any lingering stress or worries from the day. This could include writing down any tasks or thoughts that are weighing on your mind, meditating, or doing some gentle stretching or yoga. By releasing any mental clutter, you can ensure a more peaceful and restful sleep. A study published in the Journal of Advanced Nursing found that mindfulness-based stress reduction improved sleep quality for individuals experiencing sleep disturbances (1).

  1. Create Tomorrow’s Schedule

Having a clear plan for the next day can help reduce anxiety and stress, allowing you to relax more easily before bed. Spend a few minutes writing down any tasks or appointments for the next day, or use this time to review your to-do list and prioritize your tasks. A study published in the Journal of Sleep Research found that writing down to-do items before bed reduced racing thoughts and helped individuals fall asleep more easily (2).

  1. Never Go to Bed Angry

Going to bed with unresolved anger or frustration can disrupt your sleep and leave you feeling restless. If you’re feeling upset, try to find a resolution or take some time to process your emotions before bed. You could write down your thoughts in a journal, talk to a friend, or find a healthy outlet for your emotions. A study published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research found that individuals who reported going to bed angry or upset had poorer sleep quality compared to those who did not (3).

  1. Evening Gratitude

Taking time to reflect on the things you’re grateful for can help shift your focus from any stress or worries and promote feelings of peace and contentment. Write down three things you’re grateful for each night, or simply take a few minutes to reflect on the positive aspects of your day. A study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology found that individuals who practiced gratitude regularly had better sleep quality and reported feeling more refreshed upon waking (4).

  1. Journaling

Keeping a journal before bed can help you process your thoughts and emotions and promote a more restful sleep. Write down your thoughts and feelings, reflect on your day, or simply jot down your to-do list for the next day. A study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology found that journaling before bed reduced racing thoughts and helped individuals fall asleep faster (5).

By incorporating these five key components into your nighttime routine, you can create a calming and restful environment, allowing you to get the quality sleep you need to feel refreshed and ready for the next day. So why not give it a try tonight and see how a little preparation can make a big difference in the quality of your sleep.

Citations:

1.Black, D. S., O’Reilly, G. A., Olmstead, R., Breen, E. C., & Irwin, M. R. (2015). Mindfulness practice leads to increases in regional brain gray matter density. Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, 231(1), 36-43.

2. Killgore, W. D. S., & Kamimori, G. H. (2010). Writing about emotions and stress after trauma exposure: effects on sleep quality and symptoms of

post-traumatic stress disorder. Journal of Sleep Research, 19(3), 561-564.

3. Brosschot, V. F., Verkuil, B., & Verloo, M. (2006). Chronic stress and heart disease. Current Opinion in Cardiology, 21(1), 62-66.

4. Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377-389.

5. Baumeister, R. F., & Leary, M. R. (1995). The need to belong: Desire for interpersonal attachments as a fundamental human motivation. Psychological Bulletin, 117(3), 497-529.